I have two Openfire servers set up in different locations. These two servers are use two domains, say, place1.mydomain.com and place2.mydomain.com. DNS records are set up correctly and servers are working just fine, users are in groups etc., but here is what I want to see (and I can not to manage to do that):

I want to see some shared group on first server that will list some people from second server, and vice versa. I would be happy to have group named something like Remote users that will include users from second server that everyone on the first server should have on his/her contact list.

This is now that hard to do, though when I add say user@place2.mydomain.com to shared group Remote users on place1.mydomain.com server the user just disappeared and I can see him on my roster only after I restart place1's server. But I can not make this user's status indicator working, it just show up red cross (like it has no subscription).

I use Subscription plugin on both servers and I set it up the way it should intercept and approve any subscription request to the server (which is pretty insecure but there is no any more settings I can find on that) - and still no luck. Tried also with internal DB and with MySQL, both on Windows and on FreeBSD platforms - and yet no luck.

Is there any way I can make auto-approve subscriptions in this situation?