I'm attempting to create a monitor app that will send me a message (i.e. that I would receive in a graphical chat client) whenever certain things happen.  The code's pretty simple:

        XMPPConnection connection = new XMPPConnection("gmail.com");
        connection.connect();
        connection.login(user, pass);
        Chat chat = connection.getChatManager().createChat(dst, nullMessageListener);
        chat.sendMessage(txt);
        connection.disconnect();

Suppose my account is buddy@gmail.com.  If I set user = "buddy" and dst = "buddy@gmail.com", the code executes fine, but no new chat is opened in the graphical client.  If I set dst = "notbuddy@gmail.com", where "notbuddy" is another valid account, that person sees a new chat opened.

Is this a limitation of XMPP/Google Talk/Smack, or am I just doing something wrong?

As a workaround I could create an additional "buddybot" account that the app could use to log in, but I was hoping to avoid that.